You are my best friend
You always will be
Yet sometimes I get mad at you
And you get mad at me
Sometimes I don't understand
Sometimes I don't know what to do
But remember always
That I will forgive you
It can be really difficult when friends upset us. We feel as though they should know better. We feel as though we have been hard done by and that we do not deserve it.
As written in the poem above, it can be really tough to understand why people behave in the way they do when we do not agree with them. Try and remind yourself that we all experience lessons in life at different stages and that we all have different external factors that influence the person that we are.
Think about all the reasons why you are friends with the other person. Although you have differences in opinion about certain things, to be friends you must agree on some things! It is not possible to agree on everything – there is far too much happening in the world for this to be the case.
The other person may not have intentionally tried to upset you. Sometimes, we take things out on the people we love the most and we say or do the wrong thing. It can be difficult if you are under stress to try and take it out of your behaviour when you are communicating with people about general things. It may affect your body language and your undertone in your voice, even regarding things and people that aren’t involved.
No one is perfect and we all portray examples of this kind of behaviour from time to time – so remember that when it comes to communicating with your friend about being upset. Talk to them about what has upset you: was it the way the spoke to you, did they offend you, did they go against your morals? By communicating what is important, you will be able to strengthen and take your friendship to a deeper level.
A good friend will always listen and respond accordingly.